What comes to your mind when you think of Holi?
Well…color splash, pichkari, masti also DJ these days, with people starting their day in white with shades to pair. And…gujiya!!
And how lucky we were this year, although we did not had to play Holi due to some unfortunate circumstances, but Khushboo had been so sweet in inviting us to the hot gujiyas she prepared at home and making it festive for us atleast in the evening.
And while driving to her home, I got to hear - if knew how to run the home better, you should have prepared some sweets on Holi!!
To add to it, next day when the same thoughts were echoed while talking back at home when momji also insisted that mithai to banani hi chahiye holi per, some kind of pkg pad jati nahi to, tumko bhi banai chahiye thi!!
The turmoil that started within me yesterday evening, has become a whirlpool now. And I cannot help thinking the great expectations that everyone have around.
As a working woman, especially at times with tough project and people to manage, having to spent last weekend working, and so much of information to process, follow-ups to be made, and meetings to be done…I could literally feel my head vibrating with a zzzzzz by the time I ended my day yesterday. And then came this innocently sweet looking taunting expectation!!!
I feel my world has turned upside down.
Not that I prepare mithai on every Holi, or on ‘any’ Holi for that matter, but thinking deeper, it’s also because I have never felt Holi to be a festival for me. Having seen deadly Holi played outside my house as a kid, I always preferred staying away locked in my house. Though as an adult having better understanding of my life and my emotions and my friends and acquaintances, I did like going out in the society for playing colors, and what started feeling like a festival is not the color splash or food, but meeting the people, dancing to the tunes, cracking jokes and almost losing control of routine life and getting crazy.
Well, no we don’t meet many people, nobody at home except me feel a void without social bonding. But, we do eat well, except me everyone is found of food and are food lovers.
I do get it when they would like to get in festive mood with some great mithai (oh btw, dahi badas don’t count as we did have them yesterday)…but with 0 interest in eating mithais myself, and a boggling work routine (which btw, I am enjoying after a long period of being on a boring project) I wonder if I am wrong in not rendering to the home’s demand.
I am getting reminded of the day Ravi compared my nicely done rotis to the ones which are done by housewives (I think I did a blog on that too), and …..wonder….. whether he married the right person.
Maybe these are all the dilemmas of a working women! Maybe everyone has faced such a thing at one time or the other, after all, our husband’s moms were not corporate clowns like us today. Obviously taking interest in home and kitchen and tending to people could be the only constructive things they could do and be proud of, and our baby husbands have nostalgia and this expectations to have their homes run like that.
And though I preach women to balance priorities not giving all weightage to work only, yet at times, you feel driven and can see the other priorities are taken care of even without you being in the centre, you would like to invest more time where you feel is right.
Vo suna tha…ret ko jitna kas ke pakdo, vo utni hi zyada beh ke nikal jati hai. Today, i am feeling as worthless and unwanted…. Just like ret.